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Marriage Problems

Postby Jennifer » Wed Jun 13, 2012 9:21 am

I am considering splitting from my Peruvian husband. If I kick him out and change the locks, will it give me problems with the law?


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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby chi chi » Wed Jun 13, 2012 1:26 pm

For sure, you will get problems with `la suegra'.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby adrian Thorne » Wed Jun 13, 2012 6:55 pm

You can, but please be aware you will not receive the same support from police etc. if it goes belly up and your husband decides to use force. The police here are inclined to back away from demestic issues
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby inscop » Wed Jun 13, 2012 7:20 pm

Anything holding you there? Mejor que just pack your trash and leave. Unless the guy has been a major PITA, try to be nice, don't take more of the bank account than is yours to take. A little kindness in these situations goes a long way. Trust me. Been there, done that, got three tee shirts.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby renodante » Wed Jun 13, 2012 11:26 pm

these posts make my grandfather's last words to me echo even louder in my brain: "never get married, worst mistake i ever made."
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby Jennifer » Thu Jun 14, 2012 9:34 am

inscop wrote: by inscop » Wed Jun 13, 2012 7:20 pm

Anything holding you there? Mejor que just pack your trash and leave. Unless the guy has been a major PITA, try to be nice, don't take more of the bank account than is yours to take. A little kindness in these situations goes a long way. Trust me. Been there, done that, got three tee shirts.


Yes, it's my apartment. I paid for it. As we are married is he legally entitled to half? That would be a pain in the ass.

renodante wrote: by renodante » Wed Jun 13, 2012 11:26 pm

these posts make my grandfather's last words to me echo even louder in my brain: "never get married, worst mistake i ever made."


I'll be joining the club and going along with that.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby Alpineprince » Thu Jun 14, 2012 11:53 am

Jennifer wrote:
inscop wrote: by inscop » Wed Jun 13, 2012 7:20 pm

Yes, it's my apartment. I paid for it. As we are married is he legally entitled to half? That would be a pain in the ass.


Only, if you bought the apartment AFTER the marriage or put his name on it.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby Jennifer » Thu Jun 14, 2012 12:52 pm

I bought it after we were married. But it is only in my name.

Help.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby chi chi » Thu Jun 14, 2012 2:26 pm

renodante wrote:these posts make my grandfather's last words to me echo even louder in my brain: "never get married, worst mistake i ever made."


I don't understand what benefit marriage has. Marriage only costs money and when things don't work out then it even costs even more money.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby adrian Thorne » Thu Jun 14, 2012 5:25 pm

Jennifer wrote:I bought it after we were married. But it is only in my name.

Help.


That does not help. He can still claim 50%.

chi chi wrote:
renodante wrote:these posts make my grandfather's last words to me echo even louder in my brain: "never get married, worst mistake i ever made."


I don't understand what benefit marriage has. Marriage only costs money and when things don't work out then it even costs even more money.


Marriage is very special and one day you will understand. We all make mistakes and in my case THREE. I still believe in marriage and after five years my wife and I have a fantastic life together. One day, unless you are a total :B: you will become human.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby renodante » Fri Jun 15, 2012 3:02 am

you will become human.


wow, i need to get married to "become human?"
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby chi chi » Fri Jun 15, 2012 3:39 pm

adrian Thorne wrote:
Jennifer wrote:I bought it after we were married. But it is only in my name.

Help.


That does not help. He can still claim 50%.

chi chi wrote:
renodante wrote:these posts make my grandfather's last words to me echo even louder in my brain: "never get married, worst mistake i ever made."


I don't understand what benefit marriage has. Marriage only costs money and when things don't work out then it even costs even more money.


Marriage is very special and one day you will understand. We all make mistakes and in my case THREE. I still believe in marriage and after five years my wife and I have a fantastic life together. One day, unless you are a total :B: you will become human.


Adrian, the reason why you and your wife have a fantastic life together, is not because you are married. If you weren`t married to her, I am sure you would have a fantastic life together as well.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby renodante » Fri Jun 15, 2012 5:23 pm

if i had a buck for every time someone, with a sagacious tone told me "tsk tsk son, one day you'll find the right woman and you'll understand" and who then went on to eventually get divorced, well, i'd be more well off than i am now.

everyone always thinks they've found "the one" until they more often than not realize they haven't.

but anyway, back to our regular programming, i'm drifting off topic.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby rama0929 » Fri Jun 15, 2012 6:04 pm

renodante wrote:everyone always thinks they've found "the one" until they more often than not realize they haven't.


I've found the one, but sometimes I find a better one...
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby chi chi » Sat Jun 16, 2012 1:13 pm

renodante wrote:
you will become human.


wow, i need to get married to "become human?"


Yep, that`s the rule.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby adrian Thorne » Sat Jun 16, 2012 2:08 pm

This is way off thread. I thought we were helping Jennifer not advising her to shut the barn door after the horse has escaped.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby chi chi » Sat Jun 16, 2012 2:48 pm

Jennifer wrote:I am considering splitting from my Peruvian husband. If I kick him out and change the locks, will it give me problems with the law?


I suggest you ask him to leave. If he leaves on his own account then there's not a lot he can say afterwards.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby adrian Thorne » Sat Jun 16, 2012 3:08 pm

chi chi wrote:
Jennifer wrote:I am considering splitting from my Peruvian husband. If I kick him out and change the locks, will it give me problems with the law?


I suggest you ask him to leave. If he leaves on his own account then there's not a lot he can say afterwards.


Jennifer please be careful. Actions speak louder than words.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby Kelly » Sat Jun 16, 2012 3:41 pm

As far as I'm aware, marriage in Peru automatically puts everything at 50/50 ownership. So I'd be very careful and would discuss matters with a lawyer before you did anything else.
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Re: Marriage Problems

Postby americorps » Sat Jun 16, 2012 7:00 pm

chi chi wrote:
Jennifer wrote:I am considering splitting from my Peruvian husband. If I kick him out and change the locks, will it give me problems with the law?


I suggest you ask him to leave. If he leaves on his own account then there's not a lot he can say afterwards.


Not accurate advice, chi chi has no idea what the laws are.

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