z28com wrote:That's what I keep asking her... "Why don't you want to move back?" I had to ask her like 10x in a row. She just tells me that the crime is high and when she lived there she had no money. I told her just not 5 minutes ago - I looked into her eyes and PROMISED her that she would have at least 500 Soles in her wallet at any given time. She could go shopping. We could walk around and have an absolute blast. All she has is bad memories from living there with her parents and brother. They all lived together in a single tiny room. It was like that her whole life. If we went there now, it would be totally different. I told her, "Then let's at least go there for a month and try it out." She thinks I won't like it. I dunno.
I remember you now! yes, and your wife's reluctance to return to Peru.
She must have very bad memories. Sometimes emotional scars run so deep, and unless we have not had the same experiences, we probably couldn't understand.
Some of us women are very sensitive, and carry deep emotional baggage. Most men are practical, like in your case, and can make no sense of it.
This has nothing to do with your wife, only for illustration purposes and to understand how some women assimilate situations. The case of the woman who was raped in Texas when she was a teenager, and decades later would never, ever, travelling by car would cross the state of Texas. Extreme cases, but it happens.
A couple of years ago, while on vacation in Florida, my healthy husband, who seldom gets sick, got suddenly ill just before we had our last dinner at a nice restaurant, just after the toast. We practically carried him to the car and to the Emergency Room. I never want to go back to that Restaurant (a chain). Crazy,no? for me it makes total sense, I hate that place.
Be patient! Good luck!