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I know there are many topics already about this but I just wanted something not from 2011!
I just came back from travelling around Peru and met a young Peruvian boy from Mancora (yes how cliche, a surf instructor too). He cheated on me while I was continuing to travel South America (even though I was under the impression we were together as I would be revisiting his town at the end of my travels). He also went to Europe to see this girl (using her money) just after I left, all of which I found out before he went. Suffice to say we ended but 3 weeks into his 3 month first voyage out of South America he calls me crying everyday saying he messed up and was in love with me. He came home that same week.
We have been trying to work things out and there is talk again about him coming to Australia. He is saving for his ticket and visa as he knows I will never pay for anything now (which is a big deal as he is super poor by any means). He also admitted to his very promiscuous past as a Brichero and has delved into many secrets about this covenanted little club the surfers have. I am struggling with trust... with good reason. We have rules in place. He needs to call me every morning and night so I know he is alone and make frequent contact during the day. He has also changed his profile pictures to us and has offered up his passwords to all his social media accounts because he knows how insecure I am about his past.
My question to the forum who have been in this situation before is... Should I trust him again? Should I believe the tears are real? Or am I just another conquest and this time he is playing a completely different angle with me? Help please!
I have forever been trying to find out where Lima sewage and other coastal cities goes to. Obviously the ocean but how far out and is it even treated. Until that is known I suggest never to into the ocean especially off Lima
I really wouldn't trust the guy and he'll just be using you. There's a lot of Peruvians that are really all about family and having you being part of that environment and it would be great if the guy you met was like that but he's probably not. He's probably just using you for his next adventure and will move on to other things once his use for you is over. So just bin him, he won't change.
jumpinjack wrote:I have forever been trying to find out where Lima sewage and other coastal cities goes to. Obviously the ocean but how far out and is it even treated. Until that is known I suggest never to into the ocean especially off Lima
FWIW, I tried surfing out there but I gave up because I kept hitting crap. Literally crap.
My condolences to the OP's boyfriend, you couldn't pay me enough to work that kinda job.