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Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Wed May 16, 2018 6:55 am
by Aussiegirl89
I know there are many topics already about this but I just wanted something not from 2011!

I just came back from travelling around Peru and met a young Peruvian boy from Mancora (yes how cliche, a surf instructor too). He cheated on me while I was continuing to travel South America (even though I was under the impression we were together as I would be revisiting his town at the end of my travels). He also went to Europe to see this girl (using her money) just after I left, all of which I found out before he went. Suffice to say we ended but 3 weeks into his 3 month first voyage out of South America he calls me crying everyday saying he messed up and was in love with me. He came home that same week.

We have been trying to work things out and there is talk again about him coming to Australia. He is saving for his ticket and visa as he knows I will never pay for anything now (which is a big deal as he is super poor by any means). He also admitted to his very promiscuous past as a Brichero and has delved into many secrets about this covenanted little club the surfers have. I am struggling with trust... with good reason. We have rules in place. He needs to call me every morning and night so I know he is alone and make frequent contact during the day. He has also changed his profile pictures to us and has offered up his passwords to all his social media accounts because he knows how insecure I am about his past.

My question to the forum who have been in this situation before is... Should I trust him again? Should I believe the tears are real? Or am I just another conquest and this time he is playing a completely different angle with me? Help please!

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Wed May 16, 2018 8:55 am
by samthesham
Sounds like a real perro.
I guess the moral to this story is don't trust surfers.

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Wed May 16, 2018 2:00 pm
by Formidable 1
I can't imagine a surf instructor making much money. Seems seasonal at best.

Your boyfriend should try taxi driving, that's where the money's at.
Guaranteed there's always someone needing a ride plus occasionally there's the dimwit gringo that will overpay.

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Wed May 16, 2018 6:11 pm
by jumpinjack
I have forever been trying to find out where Lima sewage and other coastal cities goes to. Obviously the ocean but how far out and is it even treated.
Until that is known I suggest never to into the ocean especially off Lima

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Wed May 16, 2018 6:30 pm
by gringolandia
With very rare exceptions, people don't generally change, really. They can fake it for a while, but he is who he is and he'll return to his old ways at some point.

Run away, toss his contact info and never look him up again.

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Thu May 17, 2018 5:14 am
by SilverbackPeru
I really wouldn't trust the guy and he'll just be using you. There's a lot of Peruvians that are really all about family and having you being part of that environment and it would be great if the guy you met was like that but he's probably not. He's probably just using you for his next adventure and will move on to other things once his use for you is over. So just bin him, he won't change.

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Thu May 17, 2018 10:04 am
by Slippin' Jimmy
jumpinjack wrote:I have forever been trying to find out where Lima sewage and other coastal cities goes to. Obviously the ocean but how far out and is it even treated.
Until that is known I suggest never to into the ocean especially off Lima


FWIW, I tried surfing out there but I gave up because I kept hitting crap. Literally crap.

My condolences to the OP's boyfriend, you couldn't pay me enough to work that kinda job.

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Thu May 17, 2018 12:26 pm
by bigdaddy
I hope things work out for you Aussie but you have to understand and be willing to accept the Latino machista culture for it to happen.

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Tue Jun 05, 2018 1:52 pm
by asgp
Aussiegirl89 wrote:...Should I trust him again?


NO!!! :!: :!: :!:

Once a cheater always a repeater. IJS

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2018 6:50 pm
by Wiracocha
G'day Aussie girl,

I am an Aussie bloke, married to a Peruvian lady and now living here in Lima.

I have been married for 12 years and we lived in Oz for the 12 years..and then decided to come live in her counrty...just as a background/experience scenario for you.

From all the info I have gathered from my missus over the years, Peruvian fellas are not unique in being "butterflies", but they are very good at it....and from what I have read in your initial post, mate, you've got a butterfly in your net !!

I am tempted to say "treat it as a holiday romance " only...but I cannot presume to tell you what to do, eh?...but it happens...you may believe that, as I was an Aussie sailor for 12 years and left many a "teary eyed" girl in various ports....who were just looking for an escape to Oz....me suspects maybe same for you.

Cheers,
V

Re: Peruvian Boyfriend

Posted: Sun Oct 21, 2018 5:51 am
by PRL.1206
I am sure you get a better bf than him in Australia.

I won't be surprised that he's just after a visa to come to Australia and once there abscond and stay illegally. It's part of the brichero lifestyle.