@Hitoruna Thank's for your reply. Especially the "disculpa" advice was excellent and worked out. @Everyone else in the forum Thank you very much for you advice. I already left Lima and now I am in the States. Despite this, before leaving I was able to carve a niche for myself in Lima and m...

Hello everyone, I don't know if you guys have noticed but I observed that relationships don't change much in Lima. Or even people and what they do it seems like everyone "sigue el entierro." Now this is not me criticising others but rather to try to understand what is going on? Why aren't ...

The guy thought you could pay more so he got ''vivo'' and tried to get more money from you. That happens in every country, every business. Just turn your back to him for sure in a few days he will ring you back begging to do business with you. So OP, did this prediction happen? No, since I blocked ...

I have rode the MiraBus with my family many times ( both of us are dark). No Problem ever. It may be because you did not pay the Gringo Tax (bribe 20% of the ticket) :). Could be they are holding seats for those who pay the Gringo tax. Who knows, next time I go I will try to pay more. I thought you...

There are many criminals in Lima who buy little things on shops or gas stations and pay using counterfeit money. That's why many people distrust when somebody they dont know ask for change. Excellent point,man. I guess people live in a an environment of distrust. For instance, I heard a very sad st...

although i have never experienced it, i dont doubt there is some racism in Peru. However not the amount you imagine. btw, did you use "disculpe" this time? :wink: It is not the type of racism that motives hate crimes but people lack political correctness. And yes I did use "disculpe&...

Rebelling against authority is a long standing American tradition (US)....although I would argue that the basis for rebellion has moved from ideology to more toward financial motivations (notice I did not say economic reasons, that infers policy LOL). Fascinating discussion with you, thank you....b...

customer service here is non existent. I suspect you are just being sensitive much more than you are being targeted. I don't think I was being sensitive. The thing is that I have been quite for too long while I've seen many injustices. Just because I was afraid of someone telling "it's you not...

it seems like the leader has absolute power and the others just restate his opinion. For a moment, I thought you were discussing specific Asian countries... :lol: I am not sure where you are from, but yes, context is hugely important. Thanks for the book reference. No worries. Context is my passion...

tupacperu wrote:I have rode the MiraBus with my family many times ( both of us are dark). No Problem ever.

It may be because you did not pay the Gringo Tax (bribe 20% of the ticket) .

Could be they are holding seats for those who pay the Gringo tax.

Who knows, next time I go I will try to pay more.

customer service here is non existent. I suspect you are just being sensitive much more than you are being targeted. I don't think I was being sensitive. The thing is that I have been quite for too long while I've seen many injustices. Just because I was afraid of someone telling "it's you not...

@americancorps I always try being nice around everyone but I notice this attitude on people who work on wealthy places like receptionists at a wealthy venue. By the way I have also met very nice people in peru especially the taxi drivers with who I had great chats. @minos I don't think I have an anx...

My weight challenged friend and I did the tour, no problem going upstairs. Rag, I think this is something you should report on their "libro de reclamaciones". Hope your Spanish is sufficient to write about the experience. I honestly have seen all sorts of people on the Mirabus, and all re...

What bothers me is the whole "outer image" as well it seems like peru is very driven by group think and people care too much what others think about them. It may be worthwhile for you to research the differences between "high context" vs. "low context" cultures. Latin ...

Hello everyone, I have been reflecting a lot of whenever or not to make this thread as I am sure that it will cause controversy. However, I decided to go ahead and speak up. Well, I am a dark skinned person, the other day I was sightseeing on miraflores and I decided to take the Mirabus. This was 5:...

@caliguy @sbaustin

Thank you very much for your replies. I really like this forum as the members have helped me understand most of these social situations which don't make sense to me. I don't get why some limeños act the way they do, I guess it must be the culture.

@caliguy I think he should have been upfront with me during the meeting, instead of agreeing and then changing his mind. I asked him what price he thought would be right and he just remained quiet. @sbaustin What puzzles me is why taking a extremely close stance of saying I won't do it and then unfr...

Hello everyone, A couple of weeks ago I was looking for an artist that drew in a manga style way to help me on an album cover. Well, I posted on a Facebook page of a group of artists and some dude told he could do it. I explained him the details through inbox and how I wanted to do 10 covers and he ...

@Hitoruna While I admit that I am sometimes socially inept. There are other people who aren't and they are still excluded. I have family from Huanuco who came to Lima and they have been mistreated called "serranos" or "cholos" just because of their skin colour or they have been l...

@Hitoruna and gringito

Thank's for the reply's. I have talked to a therapist and even he acknowledges that life in lima is difficult and many people are excluded. I guess I'll just let go of this situation.

@Hitoruna My grandmother who is a native speaker taught me. Any way, this situations still puzzles me. I don't understand why I should have apologised to this person, I did nothing wrong. I simply followed what the chasier lady told me. I approached him to get the change that the cashier lady was as...

@gringito Thank's for replying. I guess I phrased myself wrongly, I wrote this at the heat of the moment in a bit of anger. However, it comes from my frustrations from being around limeños and them not understanding me. First of, I don't look like a gringo but more hispanic like, so people would not...

Hello everyone, I have been exploring lima a bit more and now I see that not only the pitucos where close and open only with their inner circles but also working class people. For instance, I was a primax buying some pepsi and the cashier lady atold me to get change from her co-worker so I went and ...

Thank's for replying Goran James. I still and seeing others people work before settling with someone. I'll contact you if I decide to work with you and your team.

Best,

Ragnorak

@falconagain Interesting, then it works both ways. However, I was mostly referring to rich peruvians who were taking advantage of a situation and others just let it doing it because of their power/influence. In your example, you talk about someone who was qualified for the job and essential for the ...

I noticed this as well. For instance, in some peruvian forums that I visited when the posters talk about someone with wealth and power having more privilege that they have or can, the would say " El que puede, puede." I understand that phrase could have different meanings but at least in t...

Hello, I am a musician and I am looking for graphic designers in Lima to help me create artwork for my album. Does anyone know a good reliable site where I can find information on graphic designers? As I would look to see different people's work before hiring someone.I really need this information u...

I do speak spanish, but chichi is right I did go to one of those elite beaches and tried to make friends. However, that was just a brief anecdote I mainly wanted to know about the experiences you guys had with different peruvians not just pitucos. How cliquish are perurvians compared to people from ...

I realised that many peruvians don't go outside their small circle of friends. I don't know if it has happened to you but when I went to the beach to make new friends I failed as most people just would not want to welcome outsiders to their social groups.

Hello everyone, I greatly appreciate the positive reception that my other thread got. I really hope you guys can help me with this dilemma as this is the most personal thread I've ever done on an internet forum. Well I am an young adult now and I always wanted to go to a stripclub/night club. Howeve...

Thank's everyone for your thoughtful contributions to the thread. I find them all highly interesting. I wanted to expand on what @Richorozco said about the wealthy white peruvians. I think classism is tied up with a form of silent rascism, within these white rich peruvians. For instance, I had a fri...

Hello everyone, I have been lurking this forum and find it very interesting and insightful. I wanted to ask why is it that most peruvians tend to not want to discuss inequalities in Lima like pitucos inapproapite behaviour such as their poor treatment of maids or their classist view towards others. ...