bob2lan wrote:We are home - $5000 later and a lot of worry about getting out of the country. The victim here is my husband's son - who just wanted to see his father. The ex demanded $700 up front and said she was going to call the police if we didn't give her the money right then and there. Also brought 2 lawyers - one of whom walked out and wished us luck due to her unreasonableness about the whole situation as she demanded 1000 US dollars a month and wouldn't take anything less AND she couldn't wait until Monday to meet with the lawyers (as we contacted one and could get an appt for Monday) Her last words when we wouldn't sign paperwork at the hotel without having them translated for us and with no lawyer present was "Have fun in jail if you try to leave the country". So needless to say- we were scared to death wondering if she would try and prevent us from leaving or accuse us of something just for the heck of it. US Embassy still couldn't help as nobody is there after 12:30pm BUT the US State Dept in DC was able to advise us and as mentioned above - told us to report the international kidnapping - which we will do Monday. Thanks for the responses - his son does not go to private school and we could never afford $700 a month. We've been sending several hundred US dollars a month and helping out with any expenses that come up like clothes and school supplies but she is money hungry. His son is almost 12 and if we can't get him back to the US - we will just have to hope he comes when he is 18. I feel for anybody that has to go through similar situations as I've seen quite a few during my research. I'm just really heartbroken for his son - as he wants to come live with his father in the US. Sorry for the rambling - it's been a rough 48 hours and no sleep. =)
I am relieved that you didn't sign any documents....especially without intentions to pay because, later on, it would just look worse for your case. I am surprised that your lawyer walked out, I wouldn't pay him one penny more than what you paid him already, if he asks. Do exactly what the state dept said to do and report it as kidnapping.. at this point, it may not JUST be about who is wrong and who is right but who has the evidence to back them up .... so keep records of every penny you have sent (which I assume has been done). During my arbitration training, we quickly learned that divorces and custody are the two worst cases that you have to deal with and the parties involved can become extremely petty to the point of pure evil. It seems you are on the right track and I wish you the best of luck!