windsportinperu wrote:I was thinking if intercultural relationship between:
peruvian woman and gringo or peruvian man and gringa works ?
What are the most common problems ? What is the best part ?
falconagain wrote:It did not work in my family. Father Peruvian Mother Gringa.
My father resented my mother because she obtained her PHD using her brain.
(my father bachelor at the UNI was obtained through political influence).
Because of this since the beginning of the marriage anytime that my mother
was able to make some money. My father took the money immediately and
spend it in parties and other women, with the purpose of maintaining
the family poor and ignorant at the same time. By the time they had
25 years of marriage my mother divorced. And moved to the States.
Now she is happy that she is no longer married to my father.
Obviously that I am aware of other couples where the relationship works.
This is only an example.
tupacperu wrote:Works 4 us!! Been married 8 years+ , no complaints what so ever.
Been married twice before and this marriage is by far the best thing that
happened for me. And age has not been a factor ( me 57, she 28), 10 year old stepson , who I adore and a new
Baby boy (Tomas Rodrigo) on the way in 2 weeks or less.
Kids, for example, seem to have no specific bedtime and stay up quite late.
Kids also seem to be pampered a bit more in latino cultures, particularly the boys.
This one might be more unique to my girlfriend, not really sure, but boy does she like to sleep.
Kelly wrote:I think that sleeping thing might have something to do with the weather? The dull, drab weather makes me want to crawl in bed in stay there, too. My husband usually gets up early, but loves to take a nap in the afternoons.
renodante wrote:it can definitely work, even more so, as others have said, when the guy is a foreigner and or gringo and the woman is peruvian.
i've found in the field that peruvian women are extremely appreciative of how much less patricarchal gringo guys are, less possesive, less jealous, generally (REALLY generalizing here) more loyal, etc.
at the same time, of course there are cultural issues that come up. for me there's independence issues more often than not. i. they call each other constantly, every day, want to spend every free moment with each other, etc. this has been an issue with each peruvian girlfriend i've had, i need my space and they pretty much never understand that. they perceive it as you not caring about them if you need a breather.
But when a gringo takes the Peruana to his home country, then mostly things change for worse.
jimuazu wrote: but here we are, still together, and now living in Peru and with a newborn baby! Somehow we have made a success of it!
hoyce wrote:i am displeased with the number of men i have met who are going to peru to get married or enter a relationship with a person they've only met online - oftentimes, the woman being significantly younger. i think it shows a defect in conduct and probably a lot of loneliness on the mens part; on the womens part i think it comes natural as it is fairly common in all cash-based countries that don't have a de facto form of social security. make no mistake, quite literally these men are their social security. i suppose everyone is using each other a bit.
to get a beautiful woman in peru you just pretty much have to go outside - that's it, they'll do the rest, getting into a relationship with one is nothing to be proud of.
hoyce wrote:sorry if that offends but there is very little organic about it. i only try to talk to the rude ones that don't seem partial to foreigners,the others treat me like i'm a star just cause i look decent and can flow in spanish - i hate that. but i don't know, whatever makes people happy is what they should do, even if it's based on a lie i guess
hoyce wrote: i only try to talk to the rude ones that don't seem partial to foreigners,the others treat me like i'm a star just cause i look decent and can flow in spanish - i hate that.
Just for you information you old perverts that it´s absolutely true
renodante wrote:Just for you information you old perverts that it´s absolutely true
an older dude who prefers younger women is automatically a perv?
it's a latina thing anyway. they often prefer older men, even ones from their own income bracket who are peruvian. they like the maturity, many latino younger guys are immature for their age. and what woman would rather date a dude who doesn't have his own place?
mammalu wrote: we prefer them older (more mature, they have ran around and are ready to settle down), specially when looking to start a family (children) ...
an older dude who prefers younger women is automatically a perv?
Drake wrote:an older dude who prefers younger women is automatically a perv?
Well yes. But just to be more precise what I meant with that is guys who are in their fiftys and looking for under 20 year-old chicks are perverts. We all need to experience life and grow to be responsible adults before we understand life fully and what we really want from it. And a relationship which is based only for financial reasons might not be that strong compared to a relationship which is based on feelings. We all have been young and we know how diffenrently we were seeing the world when we were younger.
But like someone said here in LatAm things are differend.
hoyce wrote:i am displeased with the number of men i have met who are going to peru to get married or enter a relationship with a person they've only met online - oftentimes, the woman being significantly younger. i think it shows a defect in conduct and probably a lot of loneliness on the mens part; on the womens part i think it comes natural as it is fairly common in all cash-based countries that don't have a de facto form of social security. make no mistake, quite literally these men are their social security. i suppose everyone is using each other a bit.
to get a beautiful woman in peru you just pretty much have to go outside - that's it, they'll do the rest, getting into a relationship with one is nothing to be proud of. sorry if that offends but there is very little organic about it. i only try to talk to the rude ones that don't seem partial to foreigners,the others treat me like i'm a star just cause i look decent and can flow in spanish - i hate that.
but i don't know, whatever makes people happy is what they should do, even if it's based on a lie i guess : /
mammalu wrote:That is correct, we prefer them older (more mature, they have ran around and are ready to settle down), specially when looking to start a family (children). But, on the other hand, I have seen couples that it is obvious she didn't marry him for his body.
Alpineprince wrote:Interesting but I am unsure of where I fit into the picture?
windsportinperu wrote:and have children. it is an inside feeling that is growing slowly but at an steady pace. I am 46.. Some people in the peruvian society use to tell me "te vas a quedar solo" or "porque no te casas ?"
But just to be more precise what I meant with that is guys who are in their fiftys and looking for under 20 year-old chicks are perverts
goingnowherefast wrote:They're wicked jealous though, if there are other women in a close proximity to me, I don't even have to look at them and she's jealous already, that isn't a joke. This makes having a social life in the Western world a bit difficult. And *****... going to the beach? Forget about it, that's asking for trouble. That's the only downside with latinas and the ironic part is, is that I'm a faithful guy and have given her no reason to think otherwise.
Drake wrote:an older dude who prefers younger women is automatically a perv?
Well yes. But just to be more precise what I meant with that is guys who are in their fiftys and looking for under 20 year-old chicks are perverts.
Drake wrote:We all need to experience life and grow to be responsible adults before we understand life fully and what we really want from it.